Here’s the problem if you’re a teenage girl


FYI (if you’re a teenage girl).

I’m all for parents being involved in their children’s lives and setting expectations for behavior, including how they present themselves to the public. Emphasis on children.

Differential treatment between the sexes is the exact reason girls continue to face problems in society. “It’s okay for boys to be half naked, but not girls.” This is quite reminiscent of “it’s okay for men to work this job and get paid more, but not women.” When you start early in setting a standard that boys and girls are treated differently rather than fairly, you set the expectation for the same type of treatment that allows for the misogynistic mistreatment of women. How about EVERYONE put their clothes on instead of just targeting one group?

Secondly, suggesting that girls shouldn’t post these pictures because you don’t want to “post anything that makes it easy for your male friends to imagine you naked in your bedroom” is a blatant disregard for a girl’s sexuality. Does this mother really think that young girls do not have those urges? Oh, but we’re not supposed to talk about that because female sexuality is not only to be repressed, but the onus of controlling a boy’s behavior lies squarely on the delicate shoulders of the girl. We have to be honest. I used to be a young girl. As a teenager, I thought I was going to explode with hormones and thought about sexual encounters on a regular basis. But, ssshhh, we’re not supposed to talk about that. And oh yeah, there’s another group that believes women’s dress is responsible for inappropriate male behavior – they’re called the Taliban.

Oh, and give your boys some credit. I’m willing to bet that they have no difficulty imagining girls naked. Actually, you probably don’t want to know what else they’re thinking with little help from the internet.

Lastly, posting this eloquently written address to the girls of the internet to be more modest was made non-credible by the accompanied scantily-clad pictures of the male members of the family. At the very least, the pictorial presentation is bad form; at it’s worst, it’s hypocritical and the epitome of the sexual double standard.

I call b.s. How about teaching your sons not to be lecherous? How about applying the same standards to all children? Novel idea – how about finally treating girls fairly and not shaming them for their bodies and sexuality?

Nice effort, but in no way commendable in its sexism.

Oh, P.S. – don’t forget all the young gay boys who are likely thinking the same things about young men wearing nothing but swim trunks.

2 thoughts on “Here’s the problem if you’re a teenage girl”

  1. Wow. I really don’t know what to say after reading the “original” post. She said something about being “booted of the Hall electronic island” and I would love to know if unicorns and pixies inhabit that island as well since she is CLEARLY not living in the real world. I love that posters call her out for posting the boys shirtless pics!

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