Saw this quote online: “She needed someone to heal her…so she became healer.” – Alex Myles.
An adage is that time heals all wounds. However, I know more than many that the scars of emotional wounds run very deep. SO deep, that it could be something that happened 30 years ago, and you can still feel the pangs of it vibrating down through the years. This is the basis of PTSD.
These are the 5 tips for healing emotional pain per Dr. Mercola of “Take Control of Your Health:”
- Let Go of Rejection – Rejection actually activates the same pathways in your brain as physical pain, which is one reason why it hurts so much…. The sooner you let go of painful rejects, the better off your mental health will be.
- Avoid Ruminating – When you ruminate, or brood, over a past hurt, the memories you replay in your mind only become increasingly distressing and cause more anger – without providing any new insights…. Ruminating on a stressful incident can also increase your levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of inflammation in your body linked to cardiovascular disease.
- Turn Failure Into Something Positive – If you allow yourself to feel helpless after a failure, or blame it on your lack of ability or bad luck, it’s likely to lower your self-esteem…. It’s more helpful to focus your attention on the things that you can control.
- Make Sure Guilt Remains a Useful Emotion – Guilt can be beneficial in that it can stop you from doing something that may harm another person (making it a strong “relationship protector”). But guilt that lingers or is excessive can impair your ability to focus and enjoy life.
- Use Self-Affirmations If You Have Low Self-Esteem – While positive affirmations are excellent tools for emotional health, if they fall outside the boundaries of your beliefs, they may be ineffective. This may be the case for people with low self-esteem, for whom self-affirmations may be more useful. Self-affirmations, such as “I have a great work ethic,” can help to reinforce positive qualities you believe you have, as can making a list of your best qualities.
As part of my self-healing process, my positive affirmations come from Lizzo:
“I just took a DNA test, turns out I’m 100% that b*tch.”